Wednesday, October 16, 2013


Its my dad's birthday today coincidentally as i write this post. Happy Birthday Daddy!!! Oops Dad.

"Hey Daddy" i thought it was just a song. Yeah Usher in the lyrics is letting his woman know that "Daddy"  is home. Apart from watching a very visually interesting video, it seems to be a lot of women's reality. Sisqo also came up with a song about a decade ago talking about "Who is your daddy?" So what's up with girlfriends, these days calling their "boyfriends" not "husbands" the word "DADDY". There is even a Facebook page for women who call their man "Daddy"
Well i cannot fathom calling my man "daddy" though not yet!!!  . I mean it is a personal thing for different people. I just find it awkward to call my man a name i have been calling my father for so many years, i believe he alone should have that title.Some women love to call their man  "daddy" and some men being called "Daddy" But Why?

I see it as some role play, ego stroking concept.In the bedroom, some women give the man full charge by letting him play the role of "Daddy". Yeah he had better be a daddy by making a baby, not just the fun of it. Some lady claimed that she felt protected and loved when she called her man "daddy" and a man in return feels like he is in charge. Oh well (yawn), The words babe, honey, sugar, darling, dear are not yet obsolete, i can still pick one of those to endear my spouse. So in other words to most people, the word "Daddy" is powerful, it puts a man in control and makes him King, it is also a form of endearment.

Anyway i would like to let my future husband know that i wont be calling him "Daddy" unless he starts fathering my kids, maybe i will add my child's name stripper name to it. If we decide to role play in the bedroom, we can think of other freaky names to call each other for example Barack Obama.  Well Barack is the King of the castle and the president, hmm he has another two years in office, okay i need to think about that one.
See this blog post made me call my father (dad), Daddy!!!
What are your thoughts? Would you call your man  Daddy?

Tuesday, October 15, 2013


Before the advent of Facebook and other social networks I believe people wrote spoken English correctly.It was so much fun to read back then due to the excitement of learning new words and reading people's ideas and stories. I would assume that as we got older and from our reading experiences we would be better writers. Most people gained that knowledge during their learning process but these children born after 911, I swear they freak me out with their writing.
Text messaging is just a way of having basic conversation with people when you don't have the opportunity to speak over the phone. It also goes to show how people construct sentences. Apart from typos, i have read text messages that would make one want to end the conversation right there, and i have a lot of pet peeves.Somehow i am also not surprised why people fail written English. Text messaging has made it worse, all these abbreviations. LOL! OMG !LMFAO! CTCU!
I mean i am not exempt but i can at least write out the words in a sentence.And when did Okay become 'K'.

This one is my first pet peeve, How hard is it to distinguish between two, to and too? What makes it worse is that even with auto correct on many technological devices, it is still written wrong in a sentence. Two is a number and that should separate it from Too and to. Oh my goodness.

I call this one an unforgivable sin. Your and You are not the same. Your( possessive) You are ( a pronoun and a verb). And the pretty girl in the picture below just blew it.

The same goes for "they are" and "their"

After seeing these memes, it makes me wonder if the people who actually type or write these words ever went to grade school. How did they pass a class? Do we not need these simple reading and writing skills to construct sentences when we talk. I was having a reading session with someone once and i realized that she could not read some words but in a conversation she would say it correctly. I do not understand how that works sometimes, and i still can;t get over how she struggled to say the word while reading it.

Lose and Loose is another biggie for me.
"I want to loose weight" (error) when the correct one is "i want to lose weight". They do not even sound the same.

Know and No
"Do you no that there is no sugar?" Really.

"Me two!" Waoh

Then and than
"Other then that, i believe i am done with my work"... I know the sentence was not written with an accent.

Please add more commonly misused words.

Monday, October 14, 2013


There is a disclaimer on this post. This post only applies to sexually active people who are not married. It does not in any way apply to celibates or virgins so in terms of giving opinions, speak from the stance of a sexually active person in a relationship.Please i love Jesus as much as you do, do not bring any Christian mother talk into this.

There is this in my own opinion "urban legend" that having sex on the first date makes you a slut or a hoe and it is good to wait a few months to get respect and get to know each other. In the African society especially when i was growing up, it was very shameful to hear a story of a young girl engaging in sexual activity with any boy especially when they were not married. It was so easy to throw stones and make up stories of other worse things the girl would have done with the guy so as to look innocent or perfect. At 15, some girls in my class did worse things than "escorts". It doesn't make them bad people after all sex is supposed to be an enjoyable activity but hypocrisy makes it seem really bad.I wish i had evidence to prove it but lets leave it at that.
Lets look at a case scenario, Thomas and Ada met at a house party, they get to sit down, chill and talk somewhere, after a couple of drinks Ada gets tipsy, she likes Thomas, they get closer, they end up at their house (Thomas or Ada) and have sex. Today they are married with two kids and a happy home, on the other hand Titi and Kevin met in the library during a study session, they study more and "study" each other more at Kevin's house. The next day Kevin does not return her text messages or her phone call so what happened.
The common ground here is that in both scenarios each couple had sex on the first meeting so why was Ada lucky enough to get married to Thomas and Titi losing Kevin.
For one Ada and Titi are not hoes/sluts. They just happened to be in a situation. A situation may be good or bad depending what is involved. When Ada had sex with Thomas, there was no indication of her becoming his wife, it just happened,and the same happened for Titi.
In Ada's case the sex was probably good, she had great chemistry on all levels with Thomas and maybe Thomas was ready to settle down at that point and Ada seemed the right person for him. Titi was just a one night stand who happened to be 'studied' by Kevin. Titi allowed her self to be in the situation. The act was consensual but if she expected anything more after the act that would have been her mistake.

1. If Thomas and Ada may have dated a few months, they may have broken up after having sex, the reason being that Ada may have decided to make Thomas wait, and he will just for sex, he would do everything to get some and after that he would be long gone. The factors that would come to play would be the timing and his frame of mind. Men do not associate sex with love the way we women do. Titi might have felt that Kevin liked her on a higher level to have sex with her. That is some dumb thinking right there. Men can have sex with anyone they like, it is just an act, lovemaking is for that special one associated with feelings. If Titi and Kevin had waited a little longer, maybe Kevin may have had feelings for her and not left her but again...

2. After waiting several months to have sex because of looking decent, your ass may still get dumped, its not about quantity, it is about quality.The time factor is a great yardstick, it brings out personality, who the person really is. Some men cant deal with drama or certain baggage. Men already know what they want and you could either be a bride or a loss and as a loss they will make profit from sex and walk away. It always happens and women do the same. It is a game.

3. Kevin might have wanted to be in a real relationship with Titi but after easily falling prey of having sex with him the first time, Kevin might have thought she did so with other men on the first date. If Thomas had decided to hold off from Ada, he might have not wanted to look like he was only after having sex with her,in situations like this it is always best to let the other person know whats up. There is nothing as bad as planting corn and expecting an apple tree. Planting seeds of intimacy would yield the expectation of a relationship that may never exist.

4. The only "Hell No" i can think of when it comes to having random sex on the first date is the person's sexual history. You do not know where they have been, where their partners have been, what kind of sexually transmitted disease they may be carrying, what kind of people would they be open to sleeping with. If they can trust to have sex with you when they do not know your sexual history, they can do it to anyone else and that would make me pull a "red card".

5. In other words, whether it is the first day or six months later or the wedding night, it doesn't matter when you have sex,if you are getting dumped it would happen for sure. Getting married and having safe sex is the best but now i have another question.. What if your partner is not good in bed?