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Sunday, April 5, 2015


Hey..Happy Resurrection week. I am sure you all had an amazing Easter. Let me make it better by sharing something lovely with you.
I am a blogger and also a writer but I feel I write more instead of blog as much as other bloggers do, I put one of my favorite stories on Okadabooks and guess what, its free. Its a recurring story on my blog. "the proposal" and I have also put a sneak preview of my next book "Alhaji " up for you to read. Please download the Okadabooks app to read my books and other talented Nigerian writer's stories. I would also love to get feedback. Thank you Beautiful..

Thursday, March 26, 2015


Hmmm..that time of the year came around again and I turned 31. Yes I said it, its my real age, no camouflage or nothing..I have grown from that skinny QC girl to a full fledged woman...I am thankful for my life, my family, awesome friends , health. Experiences, blessings and lessons.I thank you my darling readers and fellow bloggers for encouraging and inspiring me. I had a pretty awesome day with four of my friends and my brother.
The ladies, we painted the place RED!!!

Table Manners

Friends since Elementary school, isnt it so cool that after 22 years we are still friends
Crazy fun filled evening
Birthday girl on her birthday behavior
my shot of Patron..Birthday Tradition
One of my besties
me and this aawesome chica

Tuesday, March 17, 2015


It is just plain common sense to go out to eat and have a great time but  there is usually that awkward moment when someone in your party/ table decides to do something awkward and you are left with the disgrace of just that plain embarrassing moment. We don't all have like minded friends and since we have to accommodate other people's differences. 
1. FAMOUS PEOPLE/ CELEBRITIES: Imagine seeing Kim Kardashian, T.I, Pharrell or Beyonce( i mentioned their names because i would love to run into them somewhere, someday) at the restaurant where you are eating, you are tempted to  get up and take pictures or just simply acknowledge them. PLEASE DON'T. They are mere mortals like you who are also feeding the mongrels in their stomach, please let them do so in peace.
2. PRICES: It is not until your friend decides to take you to the most expensive restaurant you realize that your debit card wont work or you haven't paid rent for month, then you start complaining about the price of the desert or a plate of food, if you go out to fine dine please hold your wallet, it should contain enough cash or money on your plastic mode of payment to cover food or tip. You don't dine out everyday and when you do please make it a pleasurable experience. If  you ever get invited to a restaurant to fine dine, you can check the menu online which would indicate the price.
3. PHONE CONVERSATIONS: We are all guilty of cell phone etiquette anywhere, it has become a culture, even at social gatherings, those colored screens staring at our faces but at the table please put the phone away and enjoy the meal. I have also decided to minimize taking pictures of my food but how can i stop when the chef prepares meals that look like they should not be eaten?
4. CHILDREN: This rule applies to children under ten years, most of them can only scream and run around, please if they cant be well behaved in public then i regard them as "socially unacceptable" at a restaurant, leave them at home. It is sad to see children running around who have parents that have absolutely no control over them.
5. SEPARATE CHECKS: This is great when you don't want to pay for gluttons who order the whole world and don't want to pay so in order to avoid drama you ask for a separate check, please do this when placing your orders not at the end, it allows for proper bill preparation.
6. RUDENESS TO WAITSTAFF: If there is one thing i cant stand is rudeness towards wait staff, they are people too and also remember that your food is in their hands, you want to eat a proper meal and let it digest properly.
7. TIPS: The people who work at restaurants don't make  enough money and most of them depend on tips from your patronage, please be kind enough to give a generous tip if you got great service, don't have $15.75 and tell the waiter to keep the change.

Sunday, March 15, 2015


I would love my readers to get to know me on a personal level not just reading the things i write, a lot of bloggers have awesome personalities and fabulous writing,i got his beautiful idea from Megan Has Here i am, read about me
1. What is your middle name?: Sekinat… Shocker right, my parents used to be Muslim.
2. What was favorite subject at school?: English. I used to love reading books and write essay composition
3. What is your favorite drink?: Arizona Half Icedtea and Half Lemonade.
4. What is your favorite song at the moment?: I don’t have a favorite song, I love Old school R & B. Anita Baker is my favorite and “Same Ole Love” is on repeat.
5. What is your favorite food?: I don’t have a favorite food but i love eating great tasting food, i love to cook.
6. What is the last thing you bought?: Gas..
7. Favorite book of all time?: I love reading books, i particularly dont have an favorite books but i love Sophie Kinsella’s work, EDJ  and Sidney Sheldon
8. Favorite Color?: My favorite colors are pink, black and white
9. Do you have any pets?:I don’t like animals, i am terrified of them so i don’t have an pets.
10. Favorite Perfume?: My favorite perfume is Dolce and Gabbana Pour Femme
11. Favorite Holiday?: My favorite holiday is Thanksgiving, i prefer it to Christmas because it is not commercialized.
12. Are you married?: Nope not yet, but i am dating someone.
13. Have you ever been out of the country, if so how many times?: I have been  to Germany and England
14. Do you speak any other language?: I  speak English fluently as well as Yoruba and Igbo which are Nigerian languages
15. How many siblings do you have?: I have a younger brother, just one sibling.
16. What is your favorite shop?: JC .Pennys and Kohls. I love H & M for jewellery
17. Favorite restaurant?: My favorite restaurants are BJ’s and Apple bees.
18. When was the last time you cried?: I cried about two weeks ago at a friend’s mom’s funeral
19. Favorite Blog?: I have a lot of blogs i love reading, no favorite one yet though
20 Favorite Movie?: I dont have a favorite movie
21. Favorite TV shows?: Empire, all day everyday
22. PC or Mac?: PC
23. What phone do you have?: I have a Samsung Galaxy III
24. How tall are you?: 5’10″
25. Can you cook?: Yes, I am a great cook. It is not negotiable
What other questions do you want to ask? I will answer.

Thursday, March 12, 2015


I found this tag on Say Hello to Dangerous blog and I decided to join and share some of my makeup experiences.There are the seven sins which are

1. greed
2.wrath / anger
3. gluttony
4. sloth
5. Pride
6. lust
7. Envy

1.GREED: What is the most expensive beauty item and also what is the least expensive

My most expensive beauty item is my JC Penny box of products which was about $32. It had "bite" lipstick, Smash Box primer, Too faced bronzer, Stila eyeshadow and the Pore reducer cream, it came with a nice pink cosmetic bag which got dirty a few weeks later.�� my least expensive beauty item is my little box of baking soda which is about $0.52 at Walmart, it does wonders on my face because it works as an exfoliator by removing dirt and also helps reduce the oil on my face and pores, my skin feels smooth as a baby's bottom. 

2.WRATH: What beauty products do you have a love/hate relationship with?
Eyeshadow. I am still struggling to learn to apply those lovely layers of eyeshadow color, once I make a mistake I have to wipe everything off. It sucks.

3.GLUTTONY: What are your most delicious beauty products?
Too faced chocolate bronzer, it smells like chocolate and one day I licked it off the side of my face, it tasted like chocolate.Yummy!!!��

4.SLOTH: What beauty product do you neglect due to laziness?
Lately it's my eyeshadow, due to the fact that I am not yet satisfied with the application I have tons of pallets that I have not used yet.

5.PRIDE: What beauty product gives you the most self confidence?
two of my beauty products my Urban Decay eye pencil and my Bite red lipstick, I feel flawless when I walk into a room knowing I am pretty and my face is well "beat up"

6.LUST: What attributes do you find most attractive in the opposite sex?
A handsome face and a well sculpted abdomen not necessarily a six pack������

7.ENVY: what items would you most like to receive as a gift?
Ruby woo lipstick from MAC and the NARS palette.
My birthday is coming up in twelve days, someone please surprise me!!❤️

It's been fun sharing. Let's hear one of your sins, share them with me!!!

Tuesday, February 10, 2015


1. Iggy's Hairstlye: The first thing that crosses my mind, is a bird's nest. Of all days why did she have to rock this hair do to the Grammy's and also she didn't even win any award.

 2. Rihanna's Dress: I guess some people choose to look like cotton Candy at the Grammy's but that dress was all types of ugly.the sponge meme gave a description to the dress.

3. Beyonce looked like a goddess in her black embellished gown, couldnt have rocked it any better.

4. Mr and Mrs West, came out looking pretty decent, Kim looked more like someone from the biblical times in her outfit, not really a fan though.

5. Ciara looked classic, elegant and all shades of beautiful

6. Taylor Swift looked very chic in her dress and heels.

7. Kanye West and Beck: why does Kanye always have to act like he is possessed by some evil spirit of some sort, what prank was he trying to play at the Grammy's and this time with Beck. Oh I see , he was just kidding:)

8. Katy Perry looked all shades of amazing, her hair color and her amazing eyes. She looked awesome

9. Ariana Grande could have done much better with her ponytail and that outfit looking like a prom dress, she didn't complement her date either.
10.I really don't understand what happened with this trifecta but I really was not feeling this performance. Rihanna's vocals were out of this world and beautiful
11. Rihanna and Blue Ivy
12 Pharrell did great with all the awards he won but please what was up with his wife's outfit, she looked like she was going for PE after the Grammys.

13.Madonna: someone please come and get your aunty, her outfit was just not the business 
14 Ladt Gaga always looked like blood and bones but at the Grammys she looked absolutely stunning and her performance with Tony Bennett was classic and timeless, I enjoyed it
15. I also wasn't feeling Beyonce's performance of Precious Lord. She didnt put any effort.
16. Pharrels Grammy version of Happy didn't excite me as much

I hope next years event will be awesome.

Monday, December 22, 2014


Their meeting took about three hours, I stayed away from the meeting area as much as possible. I went upstairs into my room and sat there. I could not help the tears that came down my cheeks, I had to go to the university, I had no other choice but to succeed, I had parents and siblings to take care of. My aunt probably had no idea what to do with me.
After the meeting she called me downstairs.
“How are you?” she asked.
“Fine ma” I replied.
“Good,” she said and sized me up. “I called you because there is something important I would like to discuss with you.
“Okay ma” I replied.
“So you are here for a purpose which is to continue your education, your uncle died and left the care of your cousins and his business empire in my hands.” My aunt said. My late uncle had a business that was blossoming his children were not really interested in how the business was run instead they requested for money as if they worked for it.
“One of my friends has picked interest in you” my aunt said all of a sudden I was initially thinking that she wanted to tell me something about my uncle’s business, maybe she wanted me to help her run the affairs of the business. Why would her friend of all people pick interest in me. I was not very comfortable with the kind of women my aunt called her friends, I didn’t even know the purpose of their little organization.
“okay” I replied not knowing else to say.
“I was thinking maybe you can go and work for her” my aunt replied. I was stunned. Work for her friend?
“Did I do anything wrong?” I asked.
“No you didn’t my dear, but in order to make money for your needs you will need to work, and she will pay you a lot, you can go to school and also come and visit,” my aunt said. My mind went to Anulika, a girl from my village who was also given that type of hope and ended up a prostitute. Her madam had told her that she would work in the house as a maid, tricked her parents into believing she was giving their daughter a better life until she took poor Anulika and turned her into a sex slave. Anulika came home for Christmas in expensive clothes, a nice fancy car but she was not happy, she had also aged a little bit, too much sex had drained her, I heard from the local gossips that she had rich clients. Of what use was it to have all that money and not find a decent man to marry.
“I will think about it” I told my aunt immediately,
“Think about what?” my aunt yelled.
“What you have just told me.” I replied.

“My dear, there is no time to think, I already agreed on your behalf, you are going to start work there this weekend” my aunt replied nonchalantly. Was I dreaming oh was she selling me as slave just the way Joseph’s brothers did to him. The book of Genesis was manifesting in real life, 

Wednesday, December 17, 2014


GENTLEWOMAN is an awesome book written by Enitan Bereola.
I believe that every female should read this book and males too.
Here are few things i learned from reading the book

1. Overly caring what everyone thinks is the perfect way to live a meaningless life, but lets face it, not caring for yourself and others isn't living at all.

2. Society cannot function without the presence of a lady. First and foremost children come into the world from a lady.

3. When you chase a man, he is running from you.
4. Do not offer the least and expect the most
5. Class cant be purchased, people should be able to tell what you stand for by the way you carry yourself, not the purse you carry.
6. Pretty might open doors but intellect lets you in don't be stuck outside with your pretty ass.
7. Don't take everything personal, sometimes people's problems with you is really their problem with themselves.
8. Don't correct a stranger who mispronounces a word, instead use the word correctly in your response and that person will get the point.
9. Sometimes the king is a woman.
10, Quit blaming this all on karma. Karma is only a bitch if you are, my friend.

This book also offers, grammar etiquette, the talk about sex, make up and proper grooming, decoding flowers. style. food and nutrition. It is an excellent buy. Ladies. Fix your crown

I think you should look inside the pages and buy it


It was later in the afternoon that my aunt’s guests came around. They were members of her meeting, she was in a women’s organization. I didn’t know the aim of the organization neither did I know the purpose of the meeting. All I saw were women who wore fancy dresses with bleached skin that looked like pythons. They had huge rings that adorned their fingers, I was running helter skelter trying to make them comfortable.
“Come here, go and get me water to wash my hands” one of them bellowed at me. She was wearing a white head tie with a re lace material. She was called Lady D. She had an unusual tattoo on her arm, I could not exactly tell what it was, her nose ring also disgusted me, id this woman was married she was probably a disgrace to her husband. I went to the kitchen and got a basin, filled it with some water from the tap and took the bottle of Morning Fresh and squirted a few drops into the basin of water and went back into the reception area of the house where the women were entertained.  The lady took the basin from me and I went away. I was about to go into the kitchen when I heard another lady say
“This soup is really good” the lady said as she licked her fingers. I looked behind to see my aunt’s reaction. My aunt smiled at her and thanked her. She loved taking credit for things that she had nothing to do with, I noticed that. For the few days I have been in the house, I have not done anything to please her. She overlooks anything nice that I do.
“Who cooked it?” the lady asked.
“It is the girl that just left here” my aunt replied. I was hiding behind the wall so she could not see me, I had to eavesdrop on the conversation as much as I could.
“Waoh, is Grace not coming back?” the lady asked
“Grace is coming back oh, na oga niece” my aunt replied. She always referred to her late husband as Oga even though he was no longer around.
“Oh that’s really good, is she here to stay or” asked another lady who was wearing a yellow dress.
“I think so, she wants to go to the university” aunty replied.
“Who is going to sponsor her?” the lady asked my aunt.
“My dear, make we dey look” my aunt replied. I was not so sure about what my aunt meant by her statement, my parents sent me into her care. Was she not going to provide for me? What was my mission in her house?
“I need someone like the girl in my house” the lady said.
“What about your husband’s family?” my aunt teased.
“My sister lets not get into that drama” the lady responded.
“Well she is an extra mouth to feed in this house, I have children in the university to take care of” my aunt said.

I walked into the kitchen in despair. My dreams had just been shattered. I had to find a way to take care of myself in this city because judging from the conversation my aunt had no future ambition for me.

Thursday, December 11, 2014


The weekend came. My aunt woke us all early and told us to clean the house. it took literally five hours to have everything cleaned. my cousins Julia and Priscilla barely did anything. My aunty made us sweep, mop, dust and rearrange the house. she had visitors coming and she wanted the house to be in tip top shape. She asked me to make a lot of food, I found myself making two pots of jollof rice, some egusi with assorted meat, some red stew with chicken also moi moi. Julia left Priscilla and I to do most of the work, Priscilla washed some plates and went to watch television, she had a show that she absolutely had to watch every Saturday and she didn't mind that I was doing the remainder of what was what we were supposed to do.
I realized that Julia didn't really try to do anything at home, she was used to the lifestyle of having someone else like a house help do all the chores. Their last house help Grace had gone to visit her parents for a month and so they had to do everything, they were relieved when I came around because and I was the extra hand. My aunt walked into the kitchen as I washed the big pots
"Is the egusi soup ready?" She asked as she opened the pans of food that I had served
"Yes" I answered as I rinsed the bubbles off my hands
"Good, keep one pot for the house, I don't want my meeting members to finish the food" she said as she  opened the pan that contained the egusi.
"This looks good, you are a good cook, any man that will marry you is lucky" she said. I wasn't sure if she meant it but I had to look up to see the mouth that was talking. It was the first time she complimented me since I stayed in the house, whenever I did something good she would not say thank you but instead ignore my gesture. I had no other option but to try not to offend her, it was the easiest way to keep my sanity.
I found myself telling her thank you. She turned around and left after inspecting the food to make sure that everything we cooked and nothing else was left out. i was surprised she didn't ask where her daughters were. Julia always acted as if she had an image to protect, she was in the university and had high maintenance friends, on Thursday she came home with some of her room mates who had no manners, they made a lot  of noise and talked about the silly boys they hung around with. Was this the type of image she portrayed of herself on campus because i didn't find it attractive, when she was leaving her mom refused to give her the money she had earlier requested and she threw a fit. i could not believe it, i was so used to not getting what i needed butt i would never have responded that way to my poor parents who could only afford to give me what they had.