I believe that the word “Mr Right” by young ladies who want a perfect gentleman is highly over rated.
Every female has this dream to find a perfect man. Some girls have this need to have a financially stable and secure husband. This is a physical need. Not every handsome man is a perfect man, every less than average handsome man is not supposed to be the perfect man either. In terms of being financially stable, money comes and money goes hut either way money is very important in a relationship. Instead of calling it money, I would call it financial stability. If the man is not financially stable, a wedding is not ready to take place and definitely the marriage that comes after having a wedding ceremony.
Marriage and wedding are two different things, one is permanent and the other isn’t, Marriage is supposed to be the permanent one and the wedding is temporary. The wedding ceremony, the fun at the reception lasts but one day but what happens after the wedding? Marriage. Marriage is an institution by itself and it is supposed to last for a lifetime and this happens to those who are fortunate.
Some are compelled to get married because their peers are getting married, this is most especially of so many ladies, they have been bridesmaids in five or six different weddings and now their mothers are asking them, “when are other people coming for your wedding?” Others will keep picking from a selection of men especially to find the perfect one. I will tell you, No man will ever be perfect before you marry them, it will probably take you a lifetime to make a man perfect which is almost impossible, it’s just like telling a leopard to change its spots but I believe in the power of prayer.
I once dated this dude who just wanted to get married, that’s all he could think of was get married.
“Oh babe let’s get married tomorrow, oh babe I wish we could get married tonight.” All that was wishful thinking because it never happened.
Stability in both mental and physical areas of life need to be established. I would not date anyone who is not spiritually stable or financially stable. It might not sound fair but if the guy’s intentions are to take me to the altar, he had better have a job and a real good one for that matter.
Some of my mates want a handsome man, with a dashing car especially a new model and he also has to be on a six figure salary (in their wildest dreams) and so many fantasies. These are lovely thoughts but what will happen if the man is disabled, will he still be attractive to you, what if one of your jealous ex girlfriend pours acid on him, would you still find him attractive, what if he crashed his car on the freeway and he had no insurance and he buys a bucket would you still ride with him? If he got laid off from his six figure paying job and he started living on Social security or living off you, would you still bear him, these are very uncomfortable questions; it is very tempting to say yes, but it is really hard.
Sometimes you would wake up one morning and ask yourself why you are stuck with someone who looks like the character of the beast from “The Beauty and The Beast”, has a legedesbenz (on foot) and seems to share similarities with the life of a beggar and your friends will tell you “Why are you still with that man?, He has nothing to offer you”. Beware of such friends, people like that like to give advice that they cannot act on. When you go to his house, you look in the fridge he has no food, just water, you get tempted to cuss him out but how? Will you be in the relationship out of self pity, because he did you one favour in the past? Or you have made vows and you are scared of the consequences of breaking those vows. Hmm, Food for thought.
Have you ever thought of being Mrs Right?
Mrs Right is the right lady. Enough said.
Not too many women have this perspective in mind; they just want to be a lucky bride, who then is Mrs Right.
Have you ever wondered why men don’t search for ladies anymore? Because women are too busy searching for men up to the point where they settle for anything and anyone just to be with someone. Out of pressure, they think to themselves, “He is the one”.
Females, have you gotten your degree, a damn good job, do you have a spiritual life, and do you have harmony and balance in your life? Can you balance your check book at the end of the month and still go on vacation? Can you spend a whole month without borrowing money from your friends, family and savings? Have you ever thought of working at becoming a person for yourself without relying on the presence of another person? Why do you think men don’t want “gold diggers” and “limited liabilities” for themselves? Have you ever thought of why men chase women who have got it covered physically and end up marrying a “good girl” (morals, money, beauty),because what was given to them was offered on a platter of gold. “Who will buy the cow when the milk is free?” Really why buy the cow when the dairy milk comes free every day. That same guy will dump you and get the girl behind you. When you can fulfill all the requirements of a perfect person only then will you become someone’s Mrs Right. Trust me, Men will come in their flock